Sunday, February 5, 2017

Sweet Black Love - Nature or Nurture?

What kind of romantic love do you create when you’ve been shaped by community love? What turns you on about a man or woman, when the community has turned out for you? Is attraction simply a matter of individual biology and natural instinct, or does the community’s touch help you interpret the intimate touch?

AYA’s 2017 - Community Love Honorees - Gerry and Celeste White may be best qualified to answer this age-old nature/nurture paradox.

Gerry is an Assistant Professor at the Clark Atlanta University (CAU) Whitney M. Young School of Social Work and Owner of PES Consulting. Celeste is an author and Instructor in Sociology and Criminal Justice @ CAU. They've been married for 24 years.

"When I was in Jr. High school there was a major race riot. Some white boys tried to jump me. My brothers weren’t having it. My neighborhood wasn’t havin’ it. The next thing I know, there are police dogs and everything. I was in the Malcolm X movement, and just after high school my second home was the Uhuru House in Oakland. Though my dad and mom divorced, both were strong in my life, and everyone – especially the men - in the neighborhood had a hand in raising me. They stood up for me and taught me to stand up for myself. Still today, I’m still best friends with Bookie and other brothers that I grew up with back in Richmond, California"

"Raised in the projects of San Francisco, I had 7 mothers – my mother and her best friends. These women came from the projects too, and regardless of their hardship and struggle, they made sure I was taken care of. They saw to it that no harm came my way, that I was fed, that I got an education to hold on to my dreams. They also were on me to make sure I stayed focused."

They could never have known that their respective communities were preparing them to write and sing a life-long love song. When asked what was his attraction to Celeste, Gerry said, "outside of that beautiful hair and smile, was her discipline. When we were in college, she insisted that we go study in the library before we could go out on a date. That’s the kind of discipline I needed to get me through college. She never wrote my papers; instead, she inspired me to do my best."

Celeste revealed the four things that made Gerry the man for her - “his big steps, his chocolate colored skin, his commitment to family, and the way he stood up for what he believed in and for others who had been treated unjustly." She remembers him on his campus @ California State Univ -Hayward, advocating for the Black History Program. “He was always on the front lines,” she says.

Gerry said, the people I was trying to get to come to speak, were her professors at San Francisco State – Asa Hilliard, Wade Nobles, Angela Davis and more. She was being taught by the heavy weights! Everything lined up, and Gerry remembers: “She was such a 'perfect spirit.'" “I was waiting for the catch.”

Over 29 years later, he's still waiting, and has decided to enjoy the gift that he still calls the “Perfect Spirit.” She still calls him "Superman."

Superman and the Perfect Spirit - their love cup hath runneth over - showering us with three other perfect spirits: Imani, 23, Nia 19, and Jaya, 15. "Together they are faith, purpose, and victory," says proud Papa.

While Celeste and Gerry are accomplished writers and educators, and business owners, they point to their community work with most pride.

Celeste says, "we’ve created a 'Healing House'  where anyone feels welcome. I love helping people focus and stay at peace with the confidence that they are doing the right thing, and that their investment in their family is right."

Her passion is Black women’s power and influence in ways that function in the Black community. In her own words, “I’m interested in the agency and resiliency of the Black woman."

Now, you know Jo Ellen Moon, and the rest of her mothers are smiling at their handy-work. 

Gary points to his initiating the fatherhood movement in GA after the Million Man March. He said Georgia was targeting Black Men with felony convictions for child support issues. I started educating men in barbershops. I was traveling all over the place talking about Black fathers and the Black Family. Mr. Hunt – along with those other community men who helped raise Gerry back in his old neighborhood - are smiling at what their touch has produced.

Even today, Celeste likens Gerry to a Black Onyx and still loves his poetry, especially “A Tribute to the Black Woman, and her favorite his I Stand as A Black Man." “When he does that poem, I sit just waiting...” He, in turns, likens her to brown caramel for both the color and the flavor. “Pure sweetness,” he says. About the poetry, he adds, “She turned me into a poet.”

So while the nature vs. nurture debate still rages in some circles, here there is no question: community love birthed sweet romantic love. That love is reborn with each new act of community love.

Come. Bring your love - romantic and/or community - to celebrate with Gerry and 
Celeste at our 5th Annual Black Love Dinner Celebration.

“Let The Circle Be Unbroken.”

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Healing Love in the Raw

What does is mean to have a love that heals and a love of healing? What is it to love healing our people in a society which profits from making us sick? What does it take to transform that love from a dream to a "dream come true" for decades? You’ll have to ask our Healing Love Honorees for 2017 - Quinne Cook-Richardson and William E. Richardson, MD.

Their love is like their diet and their lifestyle – organic. It is derived from the living spirit that each brings to the marriage of 26 years. Like all living things, their love has grown. Like organic fruits and vegetables, they came to the marriage table with perfect imperfections.

“William's imperfections caused me to find my own joy." Explaining more Quinnie said,

“My husband isn't perfect. He is human. At first, I expected him to make me happy, then I learned through our trials and tribulations that no one can make you happy. I was used to basing my happiness on outside experiences. My husband helped me to find a joy which I control.”

Quinnie seeks to spread that joy via “Innerwork: A Retreat For Women” that invigorates the mind, body, and spirit. She also plans to assist more women who desire to have an unmedicated childbirth.

Through their healing practice American Clinics for Preventive Medicine (ACPM), William- the Medical Director -  has helped countless people find relief from the disease and pain of cancer, heart disease, diabetes and more. He’s helped even more find vibrant health integrating both conventional medicine and holistic disease reversal therapies.

Called the Vegan Doctor, he’s challenged us all to join him by starting the day with a live-food breakfast, smoothies and those 63 push ups every day for his 63rd year. Whew!  He’s a teacher, a fixture in the Atlanta African-centered community a lover of our people and a lover of Jazz. To many of us, his presence is healing.

A healing love is a growing love.

Over the years that grow appeared as Folasuyi 25, Akinbola 23, Olatunde 21, Orisamola 18, Adeshola 16, Olatunde 13. Four of them were home births where the children assisted Papa with delivering their siblings. Folasuyi, the eldest daughter, has been present for all of her sibling's births.

“When we married we agreed to raise our children as vegan and have maintained that lifestyle as a family.” Their personal family love is bound up with community love and healing. Just as William extends himself via his School of Natural Medicine and YouTube Channel, Quinnie mentors several young people and has helped them to complete high school and go to college. She says: “I believe it's our responsibility to make certain any child we come in contact needs are met."

When asked the secret of their healing love, they summed it up in one word: commitment!

“We have a strong commitment to keeping our family together regardless of our differences.”

Join us in giving returning just a smidgin of the love that this couple has shared with the community at AYA's 5th Annual Black Love Dinner Celebration.

PS: In case you want your Black love in the raw, you can order “raw” as your dinner preference.”

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This is a fundraiser for AYA Educational Institute, If you can't attend, please consider purchasing a ticket, and donating it for college-aged students to be able to attend. Medase.

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